If my body is made for birthing,

                               Why I am still feeling afraid?

Surrounded by FEAR

Well, Let's have a little heart to heart here beautiful, it's normal to feel this way. Fear is a biological purpose we use for protection. We need fear. Fear is a great tool for helping us defend ourselves, or escape from impending danger and doom. Fear instructs us through our carelessness and helps to keep us safe. 

Fear can also be taught, passed down from outside sources like our family, friends, partners, society, and even our own personal birthing story. These external suggestions become ingrained into our belief system. Ever bestow on a new adventure?  Usually, before we jump headfirst into the experience. We seek the knowledge of those who have embarked on such journeys before. First, we ask our most trusted ally for their respectable opinions. Secondly, we recall the past, including the stories and traumas that made us. Third, we begin to watch other people who are going through the same or similar situation and note how they are reacting. Fourth, We check with intelligent scientific experts. Something we often forget to do is check-in with ourselves. 

Most people are not brought up listening to beautiful birth stories or attending live births. The birthing world has been off-limits for generations. Birthing fear is a mixed plate of emotions, hormones, stories, our past, society, curiosity, and expectations. 

If my body is made for birthing, 

                        Why is there a possibility of pain? 

The Possibility of PAIN

Many people believe pain has to be a part of their birth story. I have even heard some say that “women deserve the pain of birth”.  For the record, birth is not a punishment, it's one of the biggest, most remarkable moments of your life. I have read the studies, they plead that pain is a combination of genetics, one's' life experiences, your pain threshold, the birthing moms’  support system, and anxiety levels towards delivery. They also blame FEAR, there's that word again. Do you know that fear promotes pain and tension within the body? I love this response - “We have a secret in our culture, and it’s not that birth is painful. It’s that women are strong.” – Laura Stavoe Harm

I honestly believe that pain and fear do not need to accompany you to your birth. “When I say painless, please understand, I don’t mean you will not feel anything. What you will feel is a lot of pressure; you will feel the might of creation move through you. Pain, however, is associated with something gone wrong. Childbirth is a lot of hard work, and the sensations that accompany it are very strong, but there is nothing wrong with labor.” – Giuditta Tornetta